How should you break up with someone? Singles are divided over the best way to end a relationship – and many support a VERY cruel approach
- Australian singles are divided over the kindest way to end a relationship
- Discussion began when dating coach Louanne Ward posed the question online
- The Perth relationship expert asked if there is ever a ‘right way’ to break up
- Some felt honesty is always the best policy but others had different experiences
Australian singles are locked in heated debate over the kindest way to break up with someone – and it’s a puzzle that has divided the nation.
The discussion began when Perth relationship expert Louanne Ward posed the question in her Facebook group, She Said He Said.
The dating coach asked if there is ever a ‘right way’ to end a relationship, or whether calling things off will always be upsetting for at least one of those involved.
‘Breaking it off or being broken up with is never easy. Is there a right way?’ Ms Ward wrote.
While some felt up-front honesty is always the best policy, a surprising number supported ghosting – the cruel approach of cutting off all communication without any explanation.
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Perth dating coach Louanne Ward asked Australian singles if there is any ‘right way’ to break up with someone – and it’s divided the nation
‘Ghost them as the norm is just to ignore the person and then they will get the picture,’ one man replied.
‘[Ghosting] avoids stalking – simply just disappear, magic,’ another added.
A third had a similarly blunt take: ‘Don’t talk to them ever again.’
While a fourth saw the issue from both sides.
‘In an ideal world you would hope for common decency and respect – but let’s face it break ups majority of the time are at a saturation point of toxicity,’ he said.
‘My advice, once it’s done, block ALL forms of contact preventing those calls at 1am that potentially could make you weak.
‘If it wasn’t right the first or second time, the next time is going to be exactly the same.’
But not everyone agreed, with some calling for common decency and citing an in-person break up as the only respectful way to split.
While some felt honesty is always the best policy, a surprising number supported ghosting – the cruel approach of cutting off communication without any explanation (stock image)
‘Respect is an absolute. Face to face conversation is a must. Always remember to treat others how you want to be treated,’ one man replied.
Others argued there are always exceptions where ending the relationship over the phone or via text message is the safest course of action.
‘Depends on the relationship you have with that person. Phone call or in person, but definitely avoid in person if you think there is a risk of the other person being violent towards you,’ one woman said.
Some felt the face to face versus phone dilemma should be determined by the length of the relationship.
‘Say you don’t want to see them anymore, maybe phone or in person depending on the time you were together,’ one woman said.