The dating apps They are an increasingly used resource to meet people. Although they are often used to look for a stable or casual partnerin most cases there is not, at least “from the start”, the intention that the matches become the mother or father of future children.
For this purpose, two Spanish women created lullamatean app that connects men and women who want to have a childwho seek to be fathers or mothers independently, beyond finding or not a romantic relationship.
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Lullamate, which in English means “lullaby companions”, works with an algorithm that analyzes the compatibility of the people who they want to have children together and coparent.
Generally, it is not very common to comment on a first date the intentions of forming a stable and lasting couple to start a family and have children. Many people leave this topic for later and there are many who flee in fright at the mere mention of paternity.
To avoid this awkward situation, Lullamate is designed with a basic principle: connect and unite people who want to become parents and that they can fall in love or get to know each other knowing that the other also wants to have a son or a daughter.
How Lullmate works
As reported by its creators on the app’s official page, the platform has a algorithm which can analyze the compatibility of people.
The application promises that you will not arrange blind dates and that there will be no misunderstandings in meetings because within its environment it offers the possibility of chatting, meeting and meeting people with the same goal of falling in love, committing to a stable and sentimental relationship but, above all, everything, having children: the app connect people based on their values, education or lifestyle.
Lullamate has three options for its users, based on their parenting interests:
- People looking for a partner and children
- People who are not interested in having a partner or romantic relationship, but want to have children
- People limited to adopt by different laws due to their sexual orientation
In this way, the premise of Lullamate is not to waste users’ time and find other adults with the same desires and concerns. People who are not looking for a loving relationship but want to have a child, for example. Or women and men who are willing to form a family with two fathers or two mothers who, for legal reasons, can adopt, but could co-parent.
what is coparenting
coparent is the act of share parenting agreeing on the rights and responsibilities as father and mother. This relationship is established if the parents are divorced, separated or simply want to conceive a baby together, but without having any obligation as a couple or romantic relationship between them.
In co-parenting, adults agree to protect their child and assume functions as would occur in a traditional couple. Coparents share time, education, love, resources, and values.
Co-parenting, which it is not regulated in Argentinacan come true both when the two parents are of different sex (heteroparental) and when they are of the same sex (homoparental) and according to the Argentine Civil Code It is a father by law who gives his procreational will in writing. If a couple has a child from a frozen embryo from anonymous donors, both will be their parents despite the fact that the embryo does not have their genetics.
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How Lullamate was born
The application started working in October and was born from a personal need of its founder, Esther Penalver, a 40-year-old engineer from Murcia, Spain.
Peñalver, who wanted to be a mother, started using matchmaking platforms three years ago. However, she realized that if she commented on her desire on the first date, the date would end and there would be no second meeting.
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Very frustrated by this situation researched until he found several projects consolidated in the Anglo-Saxon market of apps that matched people with matching values and that, pragmatically, they have a child and share their upbringing.
In her first month of life, Lullamate reached 600 users and it takes more than 1000 downloads in the Google Play Store.